Challenges of dating a single parent
Regardless of how your children became the kids of a single parent, you worry daily about the effect that it’s having on them and feel responsible.Let’s face it: you’re doing alone what was designed to be a two-person job.There always seems to be a little less in the checking account than what your kids need.Single moms tell us that they sometimes feel trapped underneath a mountain of responsibility that never allows them to invest in friendships, much less find another companion for life.Most single moms remarry within five years of the divorce, according to the 2006 U. Census Bureau report "Remarriage in the United States." Before you can marry her, though, you have to win her trust and love in a dating relationship.Common challenges during the dating period including pacing the relationship, balancing her needs with those of her kids and scheduling time for dates.
But because your kids depend on you, you can’t afford to push yourself past a certain point.Older kids could be uncomfortable thinking about mom as a dating, sexual being, according to psychologist Carl Pickhardt in "Adolescence and the Dating Parent," writing for "Psychology Today." If the relationship is leaning to a long-term commitment, you will meet the kids.It might start with an introduction as Mom’s friend and progress to activities that include her and the children if things move positively.If you know that your decisions (some of which you may regret) contributed to your current family status, it’s especially present.There’s guilt about the financial things you can’t provide, guilt about the time you spend away from them, guilt about the things you just can’t do because of your situation.